That was my google search today. "The Perfect Girl." I was sitting here thinking, "man..I just wish I was this, and wish I was this..." I made a list of things I wished I was. After a while, I realized, I am more than half those things; I need to stop doubting myself and letting those thoughts get to me! And the other things on the list are completely attainable. Now, I don't know what the world wide web says the perfect girl is, nor do I want to know. But what I do know is, everyone is different, and you can't please everybody. You should live to please God and God alone. "Wait, is she saying I shouldn't please my parents or leaders or husband, etc?" ..Of course not. When you please God, you'll be pleasing the right people. Whoever you are and however you act, as long as it's pleasing to God, it should be acceptable to other people.
One thing I wished I was said about me: "She doesn't care what anyone else thinks." And you know what? I have mixed feelings about this statement. I, personally, almost always care about what other people will think. And half the time, it's bad. I shouldn't care what people think of the music I like. I shouldn't care what people think of my choice in shoes or dress. There are so many little things, that just do not matter. If they do care, they think too much! It's really none of their business. But half the time, I think it's acceptable to care what other people think - as long as you're not living in fear of how they'll react to you or how they perceive of you. You should care how people think you treat them. You should care how you look - in a "am I presentable, well-kept?" way. There's kind of a fine line. Everyone draws that line differently. Make sure your line isn't too far or too thick or thin.
Ah, ok.. another thing I said. I wish I was a good cook. THAT is attainable. And I knew that when I wrote it. There will always be things that will be a continual work in progress. You can always work on skills, you can always work on your attitude, your expandable vocabulary, your appearance, your knowledge of desired subjects..etc.
So, the things you wish you were.. are they attainable? Are they practical? If so, and if they'll please God and those who matter, then do work at them. Become that girl. The girl who's everything and more. Each of us is different. Each of us has a different calling in life. Each of us has different skill sets. Different ways of communicating. Be who you are. Let there be a balance in all things.. And stop worrying so much.
Oh! and let me not forget to tell you.. Be confident! That's HUGE. major. The way you carry yourself matters. It shows a lot. People will be confident in you if you're sure of yourself. So, just do it. Know you can and will be everything God has called you to be if you work at it, and then run with it! It's a process. So, proceed.
Xx
Kirsten
Xx
Kirsten
